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I am a MOTHER who has LOST two CHILDREN; adoption and miscarriage loss

Trigger warning, my beloved reader. (Miscarriage, placement, and lack of support.) I am a mother who has lost two children.


There are those who would take issue with the term, "lost" in the context in which I use it. It is perhaps too heavy of a word for the lightness they have measured my situation. "Lost" is even too noble of a word for the context of placing a child for adoption.

Not only is, "lost" too much of a word, but the title I audaciously give myself--mother--in regards to this lightweight happening simply must be ignored at best.


I am a mother who has lost two children.


There are those who would take issue with the word, "children" in the context in which I use it. It is perhaps too heavy of a word for the lightness they have measured my situation. "Children is even too real of a word for the context of a miscarriage at nine weeks.

Not only is, "children" too much of a word, but the title I presumptuously give myself--mother--in regards to a fetus simply must be ignored at best.


I am a mother who has lost two children.






There are those who do not wish to acknowledge such losses. As if my choice to place my child for adoption negates my grief--it does not. Or that their misconception of life at conception negates the validity of my child's passing and the pain I feel as the mother in this loss. Ambiguous and disenfranchised as this loss may be, I am a MOTHER who has LOST two CHILDREN, I bear the right to my title and to grieve, no matter what may be.


Parents of loss, no matter the circumstances, deserve the space and grace to process and grieve thier valid loss.



Love and respect,

A Mother who walks with Jesus through much loss



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