I am Worthy, I am Likable, I am Loved

"I am worthy, I am likable, I am loved." (repeat)

I remind myself of the above truths when the derivation wounds of my youth try to weasel its way back into my relationships. I grew up believing through example that I wasn't worthy of any one's time, that I was not a likable person, and that to love me took too much effort so I just wasn't worth it.

"I am worthy, I am likable, I am loved." (repeat)

Speaking these words I am reminded of the goodness my Heavenly Father has for me when I am feeling less than accepted and loved by others.

1. I am/You are worthy.

Our value is rooted in the Heavenly Father who created us in His image.

End. Period. The Buck Stops Here.

Our value is not (repeat, NOT) in any one's praising or condemning words towards us, nor in other's time or attention.

“So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them” Genesis 1:27 ESV

2. I am/You are likable.

The Bible calls for believers to be kind, compassionate, and forgiving towards all. As a believer, I am/you are predisposed to this treatment from other believers.

We need to understand that not all people are going to be our friend and that is fine; but that does not negate other believers from kindness, compassion, and forgiveness.

When other believers are not kind, we have the duty of repaying their unkindness with empathy. The empathy I speak of looks like our understanding that sometimes people act on their own feelings that have nothing to do with us (hurt people hurt people). The empathy that also understands that others process the world differently (See this awesome book on the Enneagram to learn more). For example, I, as an enneagram two, see the world through an emotional lens, whereas, an enneagram 1 sees the world through an ethical lens. Neither is the wrong way to view the world. The wrong view occurs when I/you believe our view is the only right view. Relationships can be so much healthier, friendships so much deeper, and our interactions with others so much more fruitful when we seek this understanding in all our interactions.

We also, have the duty of giving those who have treated us unkindly the opportunity to make a mense and receive our forgiveness. If Jesus can take on the cross, mockery, torture, a spear to his chest, all so that we as believers can attain forgiveness, truly we bear no birthright in withholding our own forgiveness from others.

“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Ephesians 4:32 ESV

3. I am/You are loved.

Perhaps you have a derivation wound as I do that makes it hard to grasp that we are loved completely, without caution or regret, by our Heavenly Father. This derivation wound I speak is from a paradoxical example of fatherhood.

The Bible tells us that we have a Heavenly Father that cares for us, loves us so completely, and wants to have a relationship with us. A relationship consistent with Him deeply caring about our thoughts, feelings, and desires.

It's hard to grasp the Biblical concept of an intangible Heavenly Father loving us when one's tangible earthly father has shown that our thoughts, feelings, and desires do not matter nor that they believe that their investment of time is well spent on us.

Our Heavenly Father loving us completely is not an impossible concept to accept, but one that is much harder to come to terms with when a paradoxical relationship with an earthly father exists.

Take heart, we can convalesce from this derivation wound, not with time as the cliche saying goes, but with repetitive intentional work to unlearn what we once held as the truth about all fathers and learn the truth about the one Heavenly Father who never fails us, never leaves us and never stops loving us. (To learn more about how I have intentionally worked through this derivation wound check out my novel, Fireweed; I am His Fireweed blooming from adversity, a display of His splendor.)

The Heavenly Father has spoken these words in the past and they still hold true;

..."I have loved you with an everlasting love...I will build you up again" Jeremiah 31:3-4 NIV






"I am worthy, I am likable, I am loved."

With these words, I guard my heart and mind as to not let my emotional and mental health be dependant on other's praise nor condemnation, time nor attention, but on the Heavenly Father who created me in His image with the desire to see goodness come to me and a relationship come through Him.

Perhaps, prayerfully perhaps, these nine words spoken in quiet places with priceless, roaring meaning will help fill you with Biblical truth as to also guard your heart and mind as well. With kindness and empathy,

Jennifer Mae

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